Friendship is a two-way street. I admit to often being guilty of expecting to be sought out by friends. It's something that I've been working to change. I know that I don't like being alone too much and that I can't expect the friends to come to me. I have to put effort into my relationships.
As much as I know I have to contribute to friendships, I think that there is a point where enough is enough. I will try to keep a friendship alive only so long. If the other person is continually avoiding me or apathetic, it may be time to pull the plug.
I have a certain friend that came to mind and it disappoints me. We were close, roommates, assumed to be sisters by most. I won't say the friendship turned one-sided entirely, but after having her boyfriend live with us for three months rent-free and other escapades, I was exhausted. She seemed to live in a dream world. There were moments of clarity during which I and her other close friends saw "the real" her. She'd always slip back into dream world though. It was a world without consequences and she was the sun, the center.
She left a month and a half ago to study abroad, postponing her graduation and acquiring several loans on what seemed like a whim. I've spoken to her perhaps three times, the conversations always initiated by me. Sometimes I'd reach out to her with no response, sometimes with half-interested bullsh*t. She hasn't the slightest idea of anything that's happened in my life since she left, that I know of. She hasn't asked. There were lines in our sparse correspondence about my current situations, but she never acknowledged them or asked for details. It hurt knowing that I could tell someone I'd considered my best friend that I'd been laid off and that I needed a huge repair on my car and get no response from them.
In a month, she'll be back. The Roommate and I will be living in our new apartment already and all of her things will have been moved back to her parents' house. I don't know when I'll see her. I may seek her out, because I'm a bit reluctant to admit that we may not even be friends anymore. I don't know if she'll call me or even think to.